Is There Something Wrong With Being A 'Nice Guy'? |
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1. Focus on what nice guys actually ARE doing ineffective in dating (such as paying for her attention, showing too much interest and being the 'provider' instead of 'lover') or 2. Focus on the larger issue of millions of frustrated 'nice guys' when it comes to women and dating. Here I'll focus on the latter. Most guys really are nice guys when it comes to life and women. Most guys throughout history are good guys. They wouldn't abuse women or have unhealthy psychological issues. A nice guy is traditionally someone who will do a good job of leading his family. He has positive attributes and worthwhile interests. He is what nice women would want. Yes a lot of 'nice guys' fail when it comes to dating because they're taking the provider approach and following society's mainstream 'rules' but there's something greater going on. How is it that MILLIONS of 'great catches' are having problems with women and dating? Really, is there something 'wrong' with ALL of these good guys? Why are there more singles at this point than ever in history? Sure it's easy to put the blame on each man and slap him around a bit to get him motivated to learn the 'skill' of dating, but something is still eerily 'off' about the whole thing. Now it seems that the outcasts and jerks are the ones with the popularity around women. What on earth happened here? Is it really each man's fault for being unsuccessful with women and dating? It's time for an honest look at what's going on. To boil it down in this short article, there IS something that is going on and I can only touch upon it here. Our behavioral reality has changed. Women have actually changed more than men. When you look at other cultures around the world that are doing fine, the nice guys are still nice guys and they're doing fine with women. Why? Simply because their women are natural 'nice' women. That's the part of the equation that people just can't see because we're used to the behavioral reality in front of us. Millions of people can't see what we were like four decades ago or how other cultures operate with men and women. What happened was a great change. Instead of the natural attributes of women being cherished, we now have Inner (Independent/empowered) and Social (power game) Alpha models of women. Countless millions of women have changed their entire behavior (including around men) because of simply adapting to their socio-cultural environment. Yet because all these millions of nice guys don't understand this, they're stuck being confused and frustrated around women. continually trying to figure out the impossible and erratic behavior patterns of women today. Society now promotes and edifies the bad boys and outcasts which have become mainstream popular (ie. Eminem). What happened to the role models for countless millions of great men (the majority)? I'll tell you right now that there is nothing wrong with being a good guy and a great catch. I always knew I was a great catch but the behavior of women perplexed me silly until I was cognitive of the truth. Now I am at peace with the world and women. You're probably a good catch yourself reading this article and maybe it's time that you had the success you deserve with women as well. Despite their blatant socio-cultural adaptation, women still have beauty and truth left within them. Some of them have adapted so strongly and become so 'independent' and so 'social' that their only hope is to find a man like you to bring out what little is left of their former natural character. They'll never tell you the secret, it's up to you to know. But when you 'know', you can shamelessly be comfortable in your own skin because you are cognitive. You can be a great guy AND have success with women. There is nothing wrong with being a great guy. Actually when you figure out that you weren't the root of the problem all along, it will take an ENORMOUS burden off of yourself. So many guys take the weight of the world on their shoulders when they weren't the cause for a woman's adaptive behavior. Understand the truth and it WILL set you free. Your behavior will change and you'll realize that it's ok to be you, a man and the best you can be around any other person of power. Rion Williams is one of the foremost experts in dating advice, personal power and social dynamics. Learn how to be an alpha male who is comfortable in his own skin and succeeds with women and dating. Join the newsletter and get instant access to actually see the 'secret of women' for yourself @ http://www.secretofwomen.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Rion_Williams |
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