Dating Online The First Date

You joined an online dating service, and now your going on your first date with a man you met online. His personality and yours matched according to each others profiles, and he responded to your ad, along with several other guys. You eliminated the others though, they were just not who or what you were looking for, however, they all did seem like nice, sincere gentlemen. You picked this man because of the conversations and emails you shared where you seemed to get along very nicely. He even gets your sense of humor, and you two enjoy a lot of the same hobbies and interests.

But now, that you are finally going to meet him, your getting a little nervous! Don't worry. A first date is always nerve wracking before hand, and lots of times very enjoyable when you are on it. Just think of it as meeting a friend, because even if things don't work out as a romance you and this man do get along very well. So number 1 is try to relax. Don't get yourself all worked up over a dinner meeting.

You are a grown women, and have lots of friends and interests, so the conversation will not be dull. And from what you know of this gentleman, he has a quick sense of humor, and easy laugh, and is an interesting conversationalist.

Now, of course, the rule in online dating is TAKE YOUR OWN CAR. Never let the off line first date be one where you cannot leave on your own if you want to. That is just smart. Also make sure you tell your friends where you are going and with whom. Another thing that is just smart. You should never go anywhere without first letting someone know where you will be. Make sure you use common sense, not only when dating, but in all aspects of your life.

Where are you two going to meet for your first date? At a local restaurant? Wonderful choice. It is private enough to have a lovely dinner, and some conversation. Great, you know the place, so you know how to dress. That takes some of the butterflies out of your stomach , doesn't it?

You are already trying to choose between two of your favorite outfits that fit with the atmosphere in the restaurant your going to, so there is something else you don't have to dwell on.

You and he must decide what to do when you get to the restaurant. How will you recognize each other? Will he wear a red rose in his lapel? Are you going to have a red pocket book? Name tags? These suggestions may be a little outrageous, but you do need to think of something.

You can go over a few conversation topics in your mind, lots of us do that before a first date even if we don't admit it. And you do know something about this guy and what he enjoys from your past conversations and emails, so the talking is something you can relax about.

If you decide, at some point during the evening, that he is not as datable as you first thought, it is okay. Enjoy the rest of your evening, and let him enjoy his. It doesn't have to end immediately if he doesn't "Rock Your World". Just be honest with him, and let him know that you enjoyed yourself ,but don't think he is the right date for you. It is better to be as up front and honest with him, as you would like him to be with you. Not in a mean or hurtful way, but tactful and honest.

He may be dissappointed, or you may be, but you will never know if you don't go through with it. He may be the man of your dreams, and you may be the women in his....so take the chance and go find out. Most of all have a great dinner and some fun.

If this date doesn't turn out to become a romance, try the online dating service again. Check your profile, and see if there is something you would like to add or take out. Don't give up, there is someone out there for everybody,and there are a lot of fish in the sea.