I Don't Want a Long Distance Relationship

Let’s picture the scene, two people in a relationship, and one of them has to move away. What should they do? What advice would you give them? Would you tell them to stay together in a long distance relationship and see if it works, or would you tell them to go their separate ways?

See, you can give people all the advice under the sun, but it’s whether or not they decide to listen and do what you suggest that actually matters.

I personally, wouldn't give them any advice. I know the chances that they would listen to my suggestion were very slim anyway, so I'd let them make their own minds up.

The only thing I would suggest, is to make a list, why they should have a long distance relationship, and then why they shouldn't.

I think the reasons why they shouldn't would probably look like this:

Why is a long distance relationship a bad idea? Well, firstly, how much do I trust my partner? If there it not the up most trust in the relationship, it will never work. Not only will you sit there night after night, torturing yourself with ideas of what they cold be doing, saying etc. but the other person will probably do the same. Results - bad arguments, potential break up!

Secondly, loneliness. It’s very difficult to resist temptation when you know that a) the other person probably won't find out and b) you're lonely and affection levels are low these days! Resulting in serious guilt, serious problems, and again, potential break up!

Thirdly, you may drift apart. It’s difficult enough trying to keep even the most normal of relationships alive, let alone one where the two people very rarely see each other. Boredom may kick in, you may realize that you no longer have the same goals in life, etc. Resentment because of the fact they chose their job/education/family over you.

See, long distance relationships can be, potentially, very destructive. Obviously, they have their good points too, but it’s hard to think about that when you're alone wondering when you are going to see your partner again!

When faced with this sort of situation, you really do need to weigh up the pros and cons and face the reality that your relationship may not be able to deal with the two of you are apart.

IT works for some, it doesn't for others. It’s the same as everything in this world, some diets work for your friends and not for you and vice versa. Do what you have to do to be happy in this world, you only have one life, live it to the full, and if that means staying in night after night, pining for your loved one, it’s not worth it!

Be happy, make the right decision, and do it for the right reasons, not just because everyone is telling you to!