Making First Dates More Fun

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First Dates. First dates make people very nervous. The anticipation of the evening can drive you crazy. You think of everything about you that's right, and think twice about whatever about you is wrong.

It's natural to be nervous when you are meeting someone new. Someone you hope is "The One".

Just relax. You and he will get along fine and have an enjoyable evening. Even if you don't end up marrying the guy it will be a pleasant relationship.

If tonight is the only time you ever see him, that's okay too.

The one thing most people fear on a first date is a lapse in conversation. You know those periods where no one can think of something to talk about. Silences can be very uncomfortable. Think "Small Talk".

If you feel an uncomfortable moment coming on ask a silly question. Like what was your favorite subject in grammar school, or what was your favorite vacation spot? You know, something far fetched, but a question that will have an answer.

And hopefully break "the ice" between the two of you. Sometimes it just takes one light hearted comment to change the entire feel of the evening.

A first date requires a certain type of setting. It is a time when you and your date can get to know each other. What you do, what you enjoy doing and how you fill your day. It's a time when you need to be able to talk.

Lots of couples go to the movies and then go out for dessert or a snack afterwards. This gives you and your date something to talk about.

You can review the movie, and that can lead to talk about other movies you have seen, your favorite actors and actresses and all kinds of subjects.

Some first dates are spent in a nice restaurant where you can enjoy a meal, that is if you can eat while your so nervous, and have a nice conversation over dinner and dessert.

First dates are sometimes like a car battery. First dates sometimes need a jump-start to get going. It is after all up to you to make it a pleasant date for yourself. Remember to be yourself. That is so very important. If you portrait this person who isn't really you, who will your date like? He won't really know you.

If you and your date get a chance to talk before the big night of "The First Date" you should discuss your common likes and try to decide on something that will be a little different than you usually do, but something that you will both enjoy.

It might be something a little adventurous or it may be as simple as a game of bowling. It doesn't matter if its something you both enjoy.

There are a lot of first date ideas out there. You can go to a local place that has some historical significance. You can talk about the history instead of making small talk. This should solve the problem of the "silence".

If your first date plans called for an outdoor date, make sure you make secondary plans. You may not get the weather you hoped for. If you planned a sports date or outdoor activity and it rains you could be in trouble! Make sure you have a backup plan, just in case.

Do you both enjoy video games? Perhaps you can go to an arcade and play. A little healthy video competition can be fun. Do you both like to read? There are great book stores around where you can grab a bite to eat while your looking over the books.

You can sit and listen to a speaker or join in a discussion group. It will certainly help the two of you learn about each other and give you something to talk about.

Everyone dates because they want to find someone who matches up with them. Someone they like and can respect and someone who will compliment their own personality. It takes time to get to know what someone is really like. It will take lots of conversation and questions. So you too may as well get started!

That's what a first date is all about. Making a new friend, getting to know a new person,and maybe finding someone you can love, and who in turn can love you. But all that is a long way down the road. For the first date the best advice you can go out with is Have A Good Time!


 
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