Moving On: Getting Over A Relationship

One of the hardest parts of starting to date again is getting over a previous relationship which did not work out as you expected and left you with hurt or angry feelings. Moving and getting over it is easier than done: no one can really understand the pain that comes with having broken up with somebody who, whether you admit it or not, mattered to you for any amount of time.

They say that it usually takes twice the length of the duration of the relationship before you really get over it. If you have been in a relationship with this person for a year, it will not hurt as long as if you were dating that person for a decade, but it does still hurt.

Still, other factors affect your ability to get over a relationship such as your own personal resilience, the intensity of your emotions, the abundance or lack of support system to help you through that tough time or your ability to bounce back out of an unfavorable situation.
The thing about getting over a relationship is that it gets more difficult if there are a lot of unresolved issues between you and your previous partner.

If these things are not dealt with properly, you will find yourself either repeating the same mistakes or carrying that emotional baggage to the next person you are about to date. This is the reason why it is strongly advised to take a break or hiatus from dating for a season after breaking up with someone to avoid the painful repercussions of a rebound relationship.

In getting over a relationship, time is a crucial element. But time alone will not help you move on. It also takes a daily decision to move away from the source of pain and eventually be able to detach yourself to the point that you find yourself healing in the process.