What Questions Should You Ask Your Online Date?

So you have signed up for an online dating service or maybe two, and have completed a great profile, You have uploaded a really nice picture of yourself and a couple of responses have come back to you. You are going to chat with one of the people who responded to your ad tonight. So now what do you do? First, you have to learn how to separate the winners from the losers.

You have to try to get hints from your email chats about who these people really are, and not who you would like to think they are. Sweetie Pie might be anything but sweet, and you have to learn to look for the clues that tell you this. Well, it's too bad you just can't ask them, but you can't.

You need to know exactly what to look for to separate the good dates from the bad, and how to increase your chances of continuing a relationship when you do find someone you feel a connection with

Of course the first conversation should be the basic hello, what do you do, kind of informative talk, hobbies, stuff like that. But you should prepare a list of questions, not like a police drill, but about what their opinion is of important things, like "What mistakes do men/women make when they are online dating?"

If you listen, really listen, to the responses you may find out a lot about the person and their views on the opposite sex. Make sure you are paying attention, this could be information that is very important in making a decision to continue with this online date.

Now for the second question, you could ask for their opinion on online dating, what do they really think about it. Have they found it rewarding? Or are they just passing the evening because they have nothing else to do. They may tell you if they have had any negative experiences and you could find out how not to make those same mistakes.

If everything seems to be going well and you are interested in learning more, you could ask a question about the reason for the end of their last relationship. If the person your chatting with totally blames the old partner, you have to think about that. How many times is it only one persons fault. Doesn't it take two to tango? This could be the make or break answer for you. Do they sound bitter and angry? You may want to consider if this is the person you would like to date. Do they say it was all their fault? Well, that's not good either.

If they say (and this is the answer your looking for) they both ended the relationship because they realized they were just not the right person for each other. This is the sign of a mature person who realizes that not everything has to be blamed on someone else, sometimes breakups happen for the best of both parties involved. You may just have a keeper here!

If you ask a few simple questions you can find out an awful lot about the person by the answers they give you. It only takes a little preparation on your part to learn what the questions are, and what answers you would like to hear.

Remember, don't rush into anything. Take it nice and slow. Get to really know each other, and like each other. Then you can go on to meet offline. But it is better to take your time, and make the right choices than to rush in blindly and be disappointed.