What the Opposite Sex Doesn't Want to See in Your Online Dating Profile

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When writing your online dating site profile, you may be tempted, as many are, to add a few false facts to try and make yourself look more exciting, or educated, or traveled. You want your profile to appeal to the people you think you would like to date.

There are most likely some things you should leave out of your profile. You want your profile to make a good first impression. Leaving things out is not telling a lie. You certainly don't have to hide who you are, or what your beliefs are, but it is best to put your best foot forward. Your profile is just an introduction.

Relax when you begin to write your profile. Make a list of all your positive qualities and your likes and focus on that. Don't think about your last boy friend or dating experience, or the guy you liked in high school. Think about yourself.

Don't sound bitter, it will make it seem like you don't like the opposite sex. If you have had a hurtful experience in the past, don't bash men in your profile. No guy will call you after reading about how much anger you have at some other guy you have dated.

Way too much baggage for your online profile. If you have these angry feelings, it may not be a good time for you to try to date anyway. You may need a little more time to heal.

Being negative can turn off many people. If you hate everything from your job, to your life, to your commute, to your school classes, what positive traits are you trying to show other people. People who join online dating sites are looking for positive people. They don't want a needy date. They don't want to fix anyone. They want someone with whom their personality is compatible.

Even if your past experiences have not been pleasant, focus on what it is you want, not what has happened. Focus on the traits you want your new partner to have. A sense of humor, kindness, strength, someone who is easy to talk to and relaxed. Look for the qualities you admire in other people, or even in yourself. Every thing that happened in the past has been a very good learning experience for you. It has taught you what you don't want in a partner.

In your profile try to shine through the crowd. Profiles that are all the same don't really show the true personalities of the profile writers. Take the list of your good qualities, and turn them into an impressive picture of the person you are. Write yourself a profile that makes you smile. If you are happy with it, with no big doubts about the statements in it, it must be true, and show off the great person that you really are.

Look through other profiles on your online dating site. How many people have said that they enjoy walking on a moonlit beach? Or that they enjoy romantic dinners? Be more inventive than that. Personalize the things you enjoy doing. You could say, "I enjoy the food and atmosphere at the Thai House restaurant. They have the best Kanom Jeeb!" Or name an Italian place with a homey atmosphere and the best wine.

This will allow the people reading your profile to know what and where you enjoy dining. It may be something they always wanted to try, or something they already enjoy. Don't write the same old boring stuff as everyone else. Look at your list of qualities and likes and write specifically about them.

You can tell a quick story about how you learned to swim or a fun day at the skating rink. This can help readers understand your personality and lets them think about what a fun first date you two can have. Make sure the experiences you write about are real.

To narrow down the field of prospective dates you can be specific about what you are looking for in a partner. Do you want a homebody? Do you want a dare devil? Do you want someone in between?

Be flexible, if you truly are, but be specific. If you say you like a sense of humor in a partner, do you mean you are sarcastic, and enjoy people who can give it right back to you?

Being honest will help eliminate the people who you will not enjoy going out with, and who won't enjoy going out with you. Why waste time with someone who is not right for you from the start. You want to date and have fun, not waste your precious time.


 
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